Catherine DeMonte, LMFT, Talks About Leading with Love vs. Fear

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I am so thrilled to share this episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast with you, as we have someone who is very special to me: Catherine DeMonte, LMFT.

Catherine DeMonte, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, runs a group called an Abundance Group that I was so honored to join over a year ago.  Catherine inspired me deeply and provided me with some of the tools that I needed to motivate me to create  You heard me correctly!  Catherine was one of the people who joined me on this journey of creating and launching CBTSchool.  She was by my side as I cultivated the seed that has led me on this incredible mission with you all.  I am forever grateful for this!

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One of the most important lesson that I learned in Catherine DeMonte’s abundant circles was how to lead with love, not fear.  I knew this concept before joining the group, but Catherine truly helped me put it into action while I created and cultivated a life in alignment with my values.  Catherine speaks so beautifully, compassionately, and gently. She has a huge and beautiful heart. In this episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, Catherine delivers tools that will help you cultivate a life based on your vales and passion while tapping into the beauty of your heart. She talks about what it’s like to lead with love vs. fear:

  • Love vs. Fear is a tool that addresses the 2 main categories of feelings we have: love and fear. The opposite of love is not hate.  It’s fear.  Every other emotion or feeling goes under one of those categories.
  • Under love, you may have serenity, forgiveness, patience, calm, peace, etc. Under fear, you may have frustration, anxiety, depression, etc.
  • We have a choice to stand under one category or the other. Ask yourself “What would love have me do?”

Catherine also talks to us about being open to receiving compassion, love, support, and health.  We get insight into some of the incredible tools that she has included in her upcoming book, Beep! Beep! Get Out Of My Way!

I think you’ll really like Catherine’s discussion about involving deep desire into the hard work that you are doing with Exposure & Response Prevention (ERP).  Catherine teaches us how to practice gratitude and grace on our journey towards anxiety recovery.  Gratitude is helpful with anxiety because it focuses on what we have, not what bad things can happen.  We can reframe anything through the lens of gratitude and look for the gift in it, rather than the “why did this happen to me stance?”  This can help alleviate anxiety and depression.

Click HERE for more information on Catherine DeMonte.

Before we go, don’t forget to sign up for OCDeconstruct.  It’s taking place this Saturday, on April 13, and will run for about 4 hours.  OCDeconstruct is a free online conference designed to give those with OCD, and their loved ones, the information needed to understand key concepts related to the disorder so they can get a productive start on treatment.  I’ll be speaking at this digital conference alongside 5 other therapists.  Topics include intrusive thoughts, ERP, medicine, family dynamics, and more.  To sign up directly, click HERE.


About Kimberley Quinlan

Kimberley Quinlan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in Anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Eating Disorders, Panic Disorder and Body Focused Repetitive Behaviors (BFRB’s).  Kimberley is highly trained in Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), with a heavy emphasis on Exposure Response Prevention (ERP), and has been practicing meditation and mindfulness for many years.  Kimberley has a special interest in the integration of mindfulness principles with CBT for OCD, Anxiety Disorders, and Eating Disorders.  Kimberley has experience treating adults, adolescents, and children, and tailors each program to suit the age and cognitive development of each client.  Kimberley has a private practice in Calabasas and Westlake Village. 

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